HOW TO AVOID RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

BE A GOOD LISTENER In my old relationships I never used to be a good listener. I used to take my word to be final and I was the only decision maker. I never considered what my girlfriends could tell me. I was that proud guy and I could never give a damn about anything. When an argument could break up, I always wanted to be a winner no matter I was in wrong.

I never had a sorry in my mouth. I had that I don’t care attitude in me. But when I grew up I realized that what I was doing wasn’t good at all. I had lost very many serious girls because of that. I broke their hearts and I wasted their time and we ended up falling apart. I wished I could turn back the hands of time but all those were impossible thoughts. But that taught me a great lesson which I apply now with the person I relate with. There many keys to a happy relationship but being a GOOD LISTENER is one of them. Listening is a vital component of a relationship that works and that lasts. If your partner has no ears, that is recipe for trouble in your relationship. A relationship is a talk and listen, listen and talk partnership. No one has the right to monopolize talking, forcing others to listen. Such a person is not worthy your commitment in a lifelong relationship.

Therefore, if you want your relationship to flourish, be a good listener to your partner. Show your partner that s/he is an important person in your life. It’s so sad that many folks out there are more respectful to strangers they meet than their partners. If your partner is talking to you, whether it’s to ask a simple question, to tell you how their day went, or to discuss an issue in your relationship, give them the same attention and courtesy you would give a complete stranger. Stop whatever you are doing, shut down your computer or laptop, switch off your phone or switch it to a silent mode, look into their eyes, listen and don’t finish their sentences even if you think you know what they’re going to say.

Often your partner is not looking for a solution to their problems; they just want a listening ear. Listen more than you talk. God gave you two ears and one mouth. Start listen more, talk less and consider what your partner tells you. Don’t act like the way I did in my old days.