new guy or new catch:
Some Ladies today wonder why after a guy has
shown interest in them or after 2/3 dates he
disappears or doesn’t return their phone calls, text,
whatsapp or bbms. I have listed some of these
reasons above, below is more explanations.
you on a date:
Some Nigerian Ladies for some reason that is beyond
me, take their friends on a date with a guy they just
met. I can attest to this because it has happened to
me before. No positive outcome can come out of this
but some of the negatives are:
(i) The guy will be
turned off
(ii) He may start liking or prefer one for
your friends to you
(iii) He will never get the
opportunity to know you as much as he wants
because of the 3rd wheel
(iv) He may think you don’t
have a mind of your own
(v) He may turn you and
your friends back
(2) Don’t go to his house unannounced:
One thing a man hates the most is for you to show up
at his house unannounced or invited especially when
he just met you. That’s a “NO NO” because he’ll just
think you’re a stalker or a psycho and he’ll act out..
Some ladies out of emotions and lack of trust show
up at a guys house, what they don’t know is they are
pushing him away or giving him reasons to leave
(3) Don’t ask him for Money:
Some Ladies meet a guy and in less than 2/3 weeks
the demands start rolling in. Please pay for my
Brazilian hair, buy me birkin / Chanel bag for my
birthday next week, my rent is due, or plain & simply,
I need 500k or 1 million. Most guys would take off
when they meet a Lady like this. They would say she’s
opportunistic and compare her to the ladies who are
not asking them for a kobo or dime.
(4) Don’t compare him to your ex or talk about
your ex, only if he requests:
Some Ladies compare and contrast their new guy to
their old one, not only in their mind but to his face as
well. They say things like my Ladi used to take me to
KFC you’re taking me to Mr Biggs, Jide bought me
Prada for my birthday last year you’re buying me
Zara? . Guys hate being compared, it punctures their
Ego so allow him be the Boss and take you out, don’t
compare or dictate terms of dates or gifts.
(5) Don’t be to quick to upload his pictures on
Instagram, Facebook, Twitter (Social Media):
Ladies, you just met a guy, a new flame, the
relationship is at its early stages, there’s still so much
you don’t know about him why upload his pictures
for the world to see? The relationship may not even
be defined yet.. By doing this, you’re giving people
room to influence and alter your infant relationship.
Also you don’t want to be like those people who have
to cleanse their instagram and Facebook pages of a
guys picture every 6 months because of a breakup.
Some ladies have a new boyfriend on Instagram
every 3 weeks, after a heartbreak they delete old
pictures and add new ones.
your first date:
Guys are very Impulsive and instinctive by nature, by
wearing a dress or gown that’s says “SEX” that’s all
that will be on his mind and nothing else. He won’t
want to hear anything about you anymore; your
personality, your job, your family etc. All he’ll be
thinking about is how he’ll take you to his house or
hotel room because you’ve sent him a signal saying
you want sex.
(7) Don’t bore him with your Family issues:
Some ladies carry their personal or family problems
out with them on dates, instead of making waves and
progress with their new guy, they talk about how
their house got burnt last week, or how their friend
always borrows money or clothes from them, or how
they hate their sisters or brothers.. All these are TMI
(Too Much Information) Focus on him and let him
Focus on you.. Don’t allow extraneous variables
creep in and take over your conversation.
(8) Don’t talk about marriage or the future:
The number one thing guys are scared of after God is
the “C” or “M” word. “Commitment or Marriage” so if
you just met a guy and you’re already talking about
marriage or children he is definitely going to take off
and say you’re putting him under pressure and he
can’t keep up.. Let him be the one to bring it up not
you because he’ll say you’re desperate.
(9) Don’t pry about his pocket, earnings or the car
he drives:
A friend of mine went on a Blind Date at Radisson
(Lagos) to meet a Lady who his cousin had
introduced him to through Instagram. He complained
he had not even ordered a drink when his date asked
him: What car do you drive? That was her first
question.. “What do you drive?” He said he wondered
do you want to date me? Or date my car? Most guys
would be offended by this and even have a negative
impression about you immediately, because a guy
would wonder do u like me or my car?. Focus on him,
his future plans etc
(10) Don’t get drunk on your first outing with him:
Firstly Ladies, this is for your own safety a lot of
ladies have been taken advantage of because they
were intoxicated. You also don’t want to embarrass
yourself and say or do things that you can’t defend or
verify.
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