While we may not know who exactly we are going to marry, as fully developed, young adults, we have a pretty good idea of the qualities we're looking for in a partner.Shares your beliefs
Regardless if you believe in something, your partner should have respect for your views. Believing in the same things — like Beyoncé as a religion, or coffee as a morning non-negotiable — brings you two closer.
Life together will be pretty boring if you can't learn from each other. It can be a lesson as small as how to bake chocolate chip cookies with Oreos stuffed in the middle (this has actually turned out to be an important life skill), or something more substantial, like how to use chopsticks properly. For me, this means he's well-versed in politics and will give me the Sparknotes version of White House current events. Let's also not forget there's an inherent good feeling when you teach someone a new fact or skill.
2. Trusts you (and is trustworthy him or herself)
If you feel the need to raid your partner's cell phone, you're basically displaying your distrust for him or her — what good is a relationship like that? Once you start prying into each other's phones, all faith goes out the window and every text is grounds for an argument.
Bottom line: If you go digging for sh*t, you're gonna smell it.
Appreciates staying in together
Every couple needs quality time — just make sure your definition of “quality time” is the same as your partner's. Going out and socializing as a duo is always fun, but it's equally important that your partner can curl up next to you for an intimate night in. Sometimes, the most magical moments are the ones we take the time to slow down and enjoy with the person who’s right in front of us. No audience necessary.
You want someone who brings out your best self. A great way tell if you and your partner should tie the knot is by honestly asking yourself, “Does this person make me better?”
4. Does not place restrictions on you or the relationship
The person you marry shouldn't give you ultimatums like, “I won't date you until you get a promotion,” or “If you go out with your friends, I'll break up with you.” There shouldn't be rules to your relationship that prohibit you from doing certain things or hold you back from being who you are.
He can't prevent you from wearing your crop top to the bar (although, it is very flattering when he gets jealous like that). Likewise, she can't stop you from playing video games before bed (that is, unless she's not wearing any clothes…).
5. Respects your family
Notice how I don't use the word “likes” here; although, that's always a plus. This also goes for both sets of friends.
6. Satisfies in bed
If you can't please your partner in bed, chances are, he or she is gonna look for that satisfaction elsewhere. Being satisfied in the sack goes beyond pleasure; it means you two are also se xually comfortable with one another. When it comes to matters in the bedroom, you and your partner should keep an open dialogue.
7. Stays faithful
This seems fairly obvious; although, you'd be surprised at how many people are more and more accepting of the fact that their spouses will cheat at least once in their relationship.
I am not one of those people. Don't f*cking cheat on me, or I'll break up with you… And then cut off your balls because I assume you have none in order to do that to a person. (Smiles.)
Smart people don't suck. They also offer insightful advice and help you make good choices. Your spouse doesn't have to be a college graduate. We're referring to the kind of partner who innately possesses that brand of sage intelligence.
9. Appeases your attraction (whatever that means to you)
Because you're going to be spending the better part of your life with this person, it's mildly crucial that you also feel connected to him or her. I happen to be fond of older, hairy men. And I'm pretty sure that sounds attractive to no one but myself.
Shares in your vision for the future
Hopefully you're both in it.
10. Delivers unconditional love
Unconditional love is kind of like the Olive Garden: When you're there, you're family.
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