What is the number one problem men face when they want to approach a woman they find attractive? It is of course, “what the hell do you say to her.”
What you say on first approach will make or break your pickup. What you say must be a perfect balance of charm, flirtiness, intelligence, humor, and must open the door for further conversation while making the woman comfortable in talking to you.
Wow! No wonder most men have problems picking up women. So what is the best way to start a conversation with a girl?
A pickup line is definitely not the best way. Pickup lines don’t work. Every half wit knows that. Not only do they not work, they are a bright neon sign stamped on your forehead advertising your lack of creativity, intelligence, and screams BORING to women. Ask any woman if they prefer a good looking boring guy or an average looking fun guy and you will be surprised at the answer.
Women look for VALUE in men. Not looks, or power, or chest/bicep measurements. For the purposes of approaching women, VALUE is anything that catches the girl’s interest. And what catches a woman’s interest is something that is unique, interesting, and something out of the ordinary.
Her life is already filled with boring men and mundane situations and if somebody like you comes along and provides value to her otherwise dull existence, you have value in her eyes. Once she sees you have value, you are pretty much in and you are free to unleash your charm.
The best way to initiate a conversation with a girl is with what the pickup artists call opinion openers.
An opinion opener is when you ask a girl her opinion or advise on some problem. You are essentially asking the girl’s help.
On a psychological bynote, feeling useful and needed is one of the essentials of human life. Not only do humans like to be asked for their help and advise on something, they crave it and need it because it fills one of the essential needs of life.
One of the best and most effective opinion openers is the “I’m doing research” opener. A couple examples are:
Hey, I have a website called www.9jalovepalace.com and I’m writing an article called, “What beautiful women find attractive in men.” What’s your take on this subject?
Yo, can you help me out real quick? I’m doing my senior thesis on the attraction factors between men and women. What do you look for in men?
Hi, I’m writing an article about what turns off women. Can you help me out?
Besides the “I’m doing research” opener, there are many different opinion openers you can use and you can and should make up your own as the situation dictates. Every woman and situation is different so you should use your common sense and creativity to invent different ways to ask for help for different circumstances.
Opinion openers is a very powerful method that uses several psychological tricks to get women to open up and talk to you without it being an outright pickup. But of course, you can have the best opening line in the world but it means nothing without the right delivery.
Remember, communication is 55% visual, 38% vocal, and only 7% actual words. So if your delivery sucks, whatever you say really doesn’t matter. However, if you combine proper delivery and confidence with the above “I’m doing research” opener, pretty girls will take numbers and wait in line to have the privilege of talking to you.
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