Men and marriage — ever wonder what it takes to get the two together? If you're trying to get your boyfriend to make a commitment, I have good news and bad news.
The good news is that you can stop trying to manipulate, sweet talk or pressure him into proposing. The bad news is that there's nothing you can do to speed up the process.
That's not to say it'll never happen. Men fall in love and get married every day. But men have their own biological clocks.
When they're ready, they head down the aisle — but not a moment sooner. In the meantime, it's not possible to convince a commitment-phobic guy that you're the best thing that will ever happen to him — even if you are! If you're anxious to get married, your best bet may be looking for someone who doesn't need convincing to get down on one knee.
1. He's reduced you to begging. For a woman who's been doing some serious hinting about getting married, it can be hard to recognize that conversations about marriage have been replaced by begging and pleading. Even smart, strong women who are used to demanding what they want in all other aspects of life somehow fall into a trap where they're begging a man to marry them.
Once you discover that you've been reduced to begging, it's time to move on. Not only does he not plan on marrying you, but the type of guy who strings a woman along like this is likely to move on to more complex stalling tactics that can drag on for years.
2. He suggests a "trial period" of living together.
Men who want to get married are men who propose. They don't try to find a way to delay things by recommending that you have a trial period of living together "just to make sure we're compatible." Women who agree to these trial periods either leave the relationship or are way too deep into that trial period.
ALSO He hasn't set a wedding date.
Many men find that presenting a women with a diamond ring is the king of all stalling tactics. If the man has the financial means, he can often get several years worth of stall time with a large enough diamond.
If you've been engaged for more than a few months and you still don't have a date set, then the odds of you walking down the aisle with this man are slim at best. The same goes for wedding dates that are set two or more years into the future.
3. He keeps pushing the wedding date further into the future. This often starts out as a wedding date that's set for years in the future. As the date gets closer (close enough to start making real plans) the date suddenly gets moved further into the future. Let's face it: in all aspects of life we tend to reschedule things that we're not looking forward to, and we keep or move up the dates for those things that we really want to do.
If your long engagement was rescheduled as soon as it got close enough to where you needed to start putting down deposits with wedding halls, then he's sending you a message that he doesn't intend to ever go through with this wedding.
Once you find yourself in any of these scenarios, your time and energy is better spent by finding a new man who is ready to commit to you, rather than waiting around for your current man to walk down the aisle with you.
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